What Chris and I try never to do on Licking Non-Vanilla (which you can find here, and here,) is get into celebrity bashing. The blog o’pshere, Twitterati, CNBC’s, FOX NEWS, and pretty much everybody else does enough of that. While we are as interested (more like inundated) by the culture as anybody else, neither my co-host or I ever really pants over the trivial-that-passes-for-the-important that’s constantly-reported about our brightest, best, and richest. Even the sex stories, as many as catch our eye and that, at times, I will go on about here, can get a little much. It’s kind of a ‘let’s see if we can rise above it,’ situation as Chris and I just try not to regurgitate the lurid (too much) here or on our show.
In the end, who are we to judge? Nobody has the right to act as the cancel police. Shit, it’s all Chris and I can do on any given day to keep both of our hands on our keyboards when writing our naughty scribbles.
But then there is abuse, assault, practices, when not practiced safely and with consent, that yet again, throw a pall across the many naughty activities many safe, fun, and respectful people get into. And might damn well be illegal! It was never the fact Anthony Weiner was taking pictures of his junk that was what really got to any sane person, Weiner fan or not. It was how he seemed to have a compulsion to show himself around and how he may have run himself close to, if not actually engaged in, some illegal activity. And who really cares whatever Ghislaine Maxwell did with, for, and around Jeffery Epstein? But if what she what she did with, for and around him involved underage procurement or any other abuse of people who could not consent, then maybe this story damn well needs some discussion.
This might very well be the case with model Paige Lorenze’s accusations against actor Armi Hammer. In the couple’s’dating for the past four months, Lorenze claims that Hammer indulged his interested in BDSM sex with her, paddled Lorenze, making her call him ‘sir’ and ‘daddy’ and even supposedly carving his first initial, a capital ‘A’ into her pelvis (was Keith Raniere in the room?). She also thinks Hammer took and shared pics of her tied up. And while Lorenze participated, at times enjoyed and allowed all this bed-play, she claims that over time, her encounters with the Long Ranger became non-consensual.
And non-consensual is pretty damn hard to abide.
Now, to be fair to Hammer, his attorney patently dienes Lorenze’s claims as much as surfing other accusations, from another Hammer ex, that the actor told her he wanted to break her rib, barbecue, and eat it and that Hammer stepped down from starring in the movie Shotgun Wedding, because of supposedly leaking messages to other women of his cannibalistic fantasies. The paraphilia called Vorarepilia (‘vore’ for short), like many a fetish/fantasy, doesn’t necessarily have to be enacted for the person to get off on, so there is no proof that Hammer wanted to do much more than talk about eating flesh. And yes, I will give you that Lorezne’s claims of Hammer’s interests might be more extreme than just wanting to give your lover a spanking on their birthday, but if Lorenze never voiced her feelings, as put upon and abused as she feels now, can Hammer be accused of much more than some non-vanilla desires?
The take-away from this should be…if you do ever feel you are in a non-consensual situation either make your feelings known or get the fuck out! (or both)!Nobody should ever do something for another person that they do not want to do. If it’s Ari Hammer or Ralph Greco, asking.
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