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Writer's pictureRalph Greco, Jr.

Getting It Right With Circle of Q

For people not in the community of sissies, panty boi’s crossdressers, etc. the terms people use to describe themselves or how they come to be known in their community can be quite challenging for the layman to decipher. I checked in with Miss Ava, the first guest we had on the podcast, (episode #5) her co-founder at Circle of Q, Becca, to get a good leg up, for once and for all, on what terms people use in the community of men who like to dress as act as and even enjoy sex as women and the men who like to engage in intimacies with them. 

Becca weighed in first:

“There are so many terms out there to describe men that dress in women’s clothes, and the men that enjoy them. Ms. Ava and I try to standardize on some ‘labels’ for use on the site. We’re not hung up on them though; at Circle of Q anyone can be whoever or whatever they want to be. I’m the perfect example of that; just for the record, I identify as a sissy.”

Miss Ava says:

“This can be a sensitive territory. My personal working definitions (which are certainly not declarations) are, I think of crossdresser as a broad description of any cismale who enjoys wearing women’s clothes for pleasure, relaxation, escape, or erotic adventure, not because he feels misgendered. The ones I work with are typically straight or bisexual and in long-term committed relationships with women. CDs can be submissive, dominant, switch, or vanilla.

Transvestite or ‘TV’ is a synonym for CD, but it’s outdated and considered derogatory. Sissies comprise a large subset of crossdressers, submissive and often hyperfeminine. They tend to be laser-focused on giving sexual pleasure to their partner and others, and fantasize about being used for that purpose. This usually (but not always) includes sexually servicing ‘real’ men’ or other CDs. Some think of the term as an insult, but the word itself—sissy—makes a real sissy’s heart pound.

Pantyboy (or pantyboi) is a cismale who enjoys wearing panties, stockings, or lingerie, but doesn’t transform into full femme mode (dress, wig, makeup, etc.). He may or may not be sexually submissive. And Transfemmes are people born with male genitalia who express some degree of feminine identity. This includes transwomen at the far end of the spectrum (those who identify as purely female), but the term transfemmes covers a broad range in between.”

As old Willy assured us: “There are more things in Heaven and Earth…” and he was right. And those things, like all the things you live, love, and make part of your day, need be respected if those things do not impinge on others’ freedoms.

We are going to feature Miss Ava (again) and Becca on an upcoming episode, but I thought it might be interesting to get the skinny on this term/label question, curious as I was about it.

Visit Miss Ava and Becca at https://circleofq.com/ and tell them Licking Non-Vanilla sent you.

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